Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It’s about accepting all of yourself. -Tyra Banks
We are part of an educational system where we are taught things like the value of Pi, how to find the mass of an object travelling at a particular speed and so many more important yet ultimately useless things. I call them useless not only for their absolute lack of usage in our daily lives but for the sheer lack of practicality that exists in teaching children only this. We learn that Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell, how humans contain in their bodies 206 bones, but we fail to learn perhaps the most important thing, how these bodies don’t work on those bones alone; how our mind and our soul are equally important parts of who we are.
Our bodies, they function on food that we eat, similarly our mind and soul function on emotions and love. Why do we always look for love in others, and forget to look within? While it is beautiful to be loved by someone else, what’s iridescent is SELF-LOVE.
The people of today, battle with so many issues. In the age of social media, we are constantly reminded of just how unimportant, imperfect we are, and how insignificant we are, compared to all the happier, more successful, more beautiful people out there. This constant comparison that we put ourselves through slowly and steadily weathers our confidence till we are left feeling small and hollow.
The solution to this humongous problem is very simple, just two words SELF-LOVE.
In our immutable search for love among others, we tend to forget that we in ourselves are galaxies, full of constellations, stars, magic and unbounded love that cannot and will not be contained. So, why is it that the love we so easily give to others seems to disappear when it is us, ourselves who need it, why just like light in a black hole, does it vanish from sight?
“Life is a battle, we all must fight”. The mistake that the most of us make in this battle is that we become our own enemies, criticising our own moves, doubting ourselves, making ourselves feel small and insignificant. Critical thinking is very important to make rational decisions, but being critical to the extent that you break your own self-confidence? That is perhaps the worst thing you can do to you. There’s a famous saying “Akele aye the, Akele hi jaayenge”, which basically means we come into the world alone, and we will leave alone. The only constant in our lives is the very same person that we can’t seem to care for. The only person who will stay with you right until the end is ‘you’, be your own cheerleader, and cheer on; when the going gets rough, cheer on. When life gets tough, cheer on. When everything seems lost, cheer on, and remember you are all you need.
Self-love is the foundation of your single, most important relationship – the one that you have with yourself (SELF-LOVE). The strength of all your other relationships stems from and is exactly equal to the strength of that foundation. It’s fighting to see yourself as worthy, especially when you’re constantly told that you are not good enough. It’s fighting to appreciate who you’ve become, while still trying to be the person you dream to be. It is fighting to find your place in a world that’s so focused on the material, the fake, the desirable, and the ‘perfect.’ It’s fighting to accept you, but not settling or becoming selfish. It’s fighting to find a healthy balance between listening to the world and listening to your heart.
It is accepting that you’re not flawless and maybe you’ll never be flawless, but you don’t have to spend the entirety of your life focusing on your faults first. Remember, self-love is not only the final goal, it is the path that you must take in this journey called life, and ultimately it is the path that will take you to your destination.
Self-love is the source of all our other loves. -Pierre Corneille.
Love Yourself First (Self-Love)
“Words in my not so humble opinion, are most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury and remedying it” ― Dumbledore
I solemnly swear that I believe every word of the above-given quote…
Hi, my name is Moohita Kaur Garg, I reside in The City Beautiful-Chandigarh. As you might have already guessed, I am a huge and I mean HUGE fan of everything Harry Potter, so much so that one of my friends calls me Harry Potter. I am a student of Journalism; I completed my graduation in Journalism from Chitkara University, Rajpura and am in the process of completing a Post Graduate degree in the same field.
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