“You shouldn’t have to fight so hard for love” –r.m.drake
You shouldn’t have to fight so hard for love. All of us have grown up drunk on the idea of love, believing that only love can comfort us, only love can heal us. Countless movies with their enchanting depictions of love have seduced us, and we like gullible children with our eyes closed, have believed everything they’ve fed us. We’ve been taught that love is something worth fighting for, and I agree if you find someone you love and who loves you back, you should fight for something so great, something so beautiful.
But what do we do when the person you love just doesn’t love you back? Maybe once upon a time they did, but now all their actions, their messages and the lack of communication between you two tells you that they are just not that into you. What should we so in such a scenario? Should we keep fighting for the love we once had or should we give up? Fight or flight?
I’m sure we all have faced this dilemma at least once in our life, I know I have. I don’t know about you but I chose to fight for that relationship, and I kept struggling, only to realize in the end that I was the only one fighting.
As hurtful as this whole process was it taught me a big lesson, and today I would like to share the secret with you; You shouldn’t have to fight to stay in someone’s life, you shouldn’t have to fight to prove that you’re worth the effort. If someone doesn’t want to see how great a person you are, nothing you do or say will ever take that bandage off their eyes, they will never realize just how great you are, at least not now. They will eventually realize just how great you are, but it will take time. Maybe they’ll realize tomorrow, or maybe it’ll be years later, you both would have drifted apart going your own different ways and suddenly one day you’ll find a message from them on your Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat inbox, confessing how wrong they were and just how much they miss you.
But by then you would’ve long moved on and I pray and hope that you never think about going back to them, because love is a slippery slope, and there is no guarantee that this time they will change, and that this time they’ll treat you better. Honestly, no-one will treat you good if you don’t value yourself if you don’t treat yourself like you deserve to be treated, why would anyone else?
People like us have the tendency to treat people with the utmost care, giving them all the best pieces of us, forgetting that we too deserve our best. Treat yourself how you want others to treat you because how you treat yourself will show them just how much respect you believe, you deserve.
As I had mentioned in my previous blog post “Love Yourself First”, we are part of an education system that assigns no significance to just how important Self-Love is. You shouldn’t have to fight, you have to see that If after and in spite of all the love and you are offering or are willing to offer, someone still isn’t willing to fight for you, you have to fight for yourself, don’t let someone else dictate how much love you deserve and receive, You shouldn’t have to fight, love yourself the way you love others.
This may sound cheesy but, “Go be your own Hero”, be the person you deserve. This will not only increase your self-confidence but this Self-Love, this positivity will act as a magnet, pulling towards you the right kind of people and the right kind of love. You shouldn’t have to fight.
You shouldn’t have to fight.
“Words in my not so humble opinion, are most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury and remedying it” ― Dumbledore
I solemnly swear that I believe every word of the above-given quote…
Hi, my name is Moohita Kaur Garg, I reside in The City Beautiful-Chandigarh. As you might have already guessed, I am a huge and I mean HUGE fan of everything Harry Potter, so much so that one of my friends calls me Harry Potter. I am a student of Journalism; I completed my graduation in Journalism from Chitkara University, Rajpura and am in the process of completing a Post Graduate degree in the same field.
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